How to Set Soul-Aligned Goals Without the Tug-of-War

"There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. If you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and will be lost." - Martha Graham, (legendary dancer and choreographer)

Late December, I found myself in a familiar scene: I sticky notes scattered everywhere in my office, candles burning down to nubs, my journal open to a half-written to-do list. My brain flipped back and forth between:

"This year’s gonna be epic!"
"What if I totally mess it up?"

Even after years of setting goals and manifesting a life I love, I still catch myself in this tug-of-war sometimes.

That push and pull between excitement and self-doubt… Like part of you is ready to charge ahead, but another part whispers, “Slow down, you’re not ready yet, lady.”

Here’s the thing: dreaming big and setting goals is a privilege. It’s a sign that your soul refuses to settle. But let’s be honest—it’s not always easy to navigate, especially when the world around us feels like it’s shouting about productivity, hustle, and algorithms that don’t even feel like us.

You may even be wondering what it feels like when something is coming from your soul...Great question!

The best way I can describe it is like this:

When it comes from your soul, it sometimes feels like a gut feeling that just knows what’s right for you, even if it doesn’t make sense to anyone else. It’s the part of you that craves what feels real and true—not what the world says you should want.

And a soul-first approach can change everything!

Instead of forcing your dreams into someone else’s template, you get to create from the inside out. You get to align with what truly feels good and let that lead the way.

This isn’t about perfection or hustle. It’s about creating a year that feels unapologetically yours.

With that said, here are 5 journal prompts when you feel stuck and ready to set soul-aligned goals without the tug-of-war feeling...

A Practice to Shift From Tug-of-War to Soul Alignment

Take a moment to reconnect with yourself. Light a candle, take a deep breath, and let your journal be your guide.

Here are some journaling prompts to get you started:

1. What feels exciting to me right now?

2. What fears or doubts are whispering in the background? How can I show compassion to those feelings?

3. If I let go of what the world expects, what would my goals look like?

Allow your answers to flow without judgment. Trust that the clarity you seek will emerge—not from forcing it but from creating space for it.

Your Soul’s Goals Are Worth Following

This year, let’s commit to something deeper than resolutions or productivity hacks. Let’s commit to ourselves—our intuition, our desires, and the unique path our souls are here to walk.

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This year isn’t about fitting into a box. It’s about breaking free and following the wisdom that’s been in your soul all along.

Let’s create a life that feels as expansive as your dreams.

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